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Saturday, August 30, 2008

Starbuck's Coffee "The Way I See It" #36

On Friday, this is the quote that was on my therapist's coffee cup from Starbuck's:

"Mother-love is not inevitable. The good mother is a great artist ever creating beauty out of chaos."

--Alice Randall, Novelist, The Wind Done Gone,
and first black woman to write a No. 1 country song.

So, what are your thoughts and feelings about this quote? Agree, disagree, happy, sad, angry, grateful, thankful, etc...

Stop and think before scrolling down to see my thoughts.

Well, when my therapist read this I was shocked given the things that we had been talking about regarding my mother. I thought, "that is true it is not inevitable and what a profound statement about being a mother for it is from chaos that she helps her child to grow." My therapist said, "your mother took beauty and created chaos." Makes me sad and tearful, but he is right.


Wandering Coyote said...

I have to agree with the quote...unfortunately. Looooooong story, and since my mom reads my blog, it's probably never going to appear there...

Tamara (TC) Staples said...


My mother, too, made chaos out of beauty. She made chaos out of EVERYTHING!!!! And, then blamed me for the chaos!

Clueless said...

WC ~ it is too bad that you can't be honest because your mother reads your blog...could you start an anonymous one?

Tamara ~ I like how we can relate so much. I know exactly what you mean.

Anonymous said...

I wonder if this quote was more a reference to nature, like Mother Earth or something...

Clueless said...

In doing a search on this, all I was able to find out is that this was a quote out of the book mentioned which is a parody of "Gone With The Wind."

However, I did find a yoga place that uses the quote and developmental psychologist using the exact words in describing mother attachments/bonding.

Either, way I thought it was thought provoking.

soulful sepulcher said...

Hi, This is an interesting idea, asking how this quote is perceived by others. ((hugs)) For me, just as a person, I like the quote (meaning removing motherhood from it)because I try and look for beauty in all situations, mostly as a result of a chaotic childhood.
I was determined to raise my daughters in a calm environment and we had that, though the hospital years with my daughter have been trying at times.

Anyway, take care,

Clueless said...


Thank you for visiting and I honor you for trying to make beauty into chaos. Thank you for visiting my blog and for the hugs.

Take care,

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