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Thursday, July 15, 2010

I Am Woman or You're So Vain?

Lately, there has been a significant change in my life.  It isn't earth shattering, but I'm doing more girly stuff.  Now, no one would ever call me girly. I wear make up only for special occasions and hide my new cleavage.  I would never wear pink, frilly things, flowers or other things that I describe as girly.  My hair is short, but has an architectural look, artsy of sorts.  People either love it or hate it.  I like to dress nicely, but not girly.

However, since my make up makeover in April, I have been wearing make up several times per week.  I love Bare Escentuals because I don't even know that I am wearing make up.  It is also quite natural looking. I've purchased and used quite a bit of items.

I also have been wearing more what I call frilly stuff.  On the left is the most girly thing that I have worn.  As my husband puts it I am more "womanly" regarding my clothing and make up.

But, then I started wondering is it vanity or womanly.  For me, it is about looking good, but also about having fun.  Does what women do make then vain or just women?  Just my thoughts for today.  What do you think?


Anonymous said...

You had a make-up makeover in April?!? That's so cool! I'm envious.

And regarding whether it's womanly or vain to wear make-up, I think it's a little bit of both. But EVERYONE is vain in the sense that they care what they look like (in fact, it's a sign of mental illness if someone is NOT vain and doesn't care how they present themselves). Don't feel guilty about wearing makeup and frilly things. It's your life and your body and you can decorate it however you like!

Wishing you well,

Wanda's Wings said...

I don't think its vain to fix up, as long as you enjoy yourself. That's what is important.

Anonymous said...

ARGENTINA JUST LEGALIZED GAY MARRIAGE! I thought you'd like to know.


Evan said...

Dressing up can be fun. Enjoy!

If you start only feeling good if you dress up then I think it's a worry (I think people get vain to compensate for this).

Clueless said...


I think it was in April. It was just make up that you can get at any make up counter here. It is fun to try out different brands and looks.

I like what you said especially the decorate part. I actually also think that it is part of becoming comfortable with being a woman and my depression lifting.

Thanks for the news about Argentina!!! :-)


Always the wise one. Yes, I am enjoying it and it is more for me than others...fun.

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