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Monday, April 27, 2009

A Life That Touched Others is Gone

Yesterday (Sunday), at around 4 am, my husband and I received a call from his family to let us know that my husband's father had passed away. When the telephone rang, I did not want anyone to answer because I was pretty sure at 4 am what the call would be. Sadly, I was right my husband's father had passed away quietly, painlessly in his sleep. I think that would be the best way to go and am comforted by this.

I've been thinking about his life and the relatively short time that I knew him out of his 89 years. He had a tough life, yet was not bitter. He worked hard as a gardener without finishing or evening having any former schooling. At one time, he owned two homes. One rental home was his retirement fund. Smart man! All of his children, were able to go to college.

Besides the more "material" things. I loved him and am thankful that he gave me such a wonderful husband who is much like his father. Everytime, he saw me he would have this wonderful smile on his face. He was smart, observant, funny, giving, fair, honest and had integrity.

Not having much money, my husband tells stories of how he became a collector and "creative." Such was the time he built a dining room table out of material he either had, found or purchased at yard sales (a favorite hobby). He made a table with that was sturdy and functional, but had four different legs!! I always thought of his home as Sanford and Son meets Gillian's Island.

I think that he knew I was "the one" for my husband. He loved baseball; however, during one of my early visits, he changed his routine. He usually would just watch it in the other room while everyone else sat around the dining room table and talked. Well, for me he would turn it off and sit with everyone. The first time this occurred, my husband said, "my Dad likes you." Score!!! I remember how handsome and proud he looked on the day we were married and him lighting the candles. Sorry, it one candle was stubborn.

Right now, all I can do is think of his smile that I will miss so much. I am sad that he is gone and miss him very much.


Ana said...

I'm very sorry for your lost CC.
He is an amazing person as you described. I use "is" because I believe that he just finished his journey here and now is some place we have no idea.
This is what I think about my grandma who has died in 1998.
I never think of her as too far from me.
Take care.

Laura said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. You have some wonderful memories of him which I'm sure will help in some small way. It's so hard to lose those who we love ... you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

It is so sad to lose a loved one. And especially someone who was so wonderful to you and welcomed you into the family.

Best wishes to you, your husband and family at this time.

jeff said...

Gardeners. Some of the most wonderful people on earth. My love goes out to you CC. May you and your husband find peace and comfort during this time.

Dr. Deb said...

Sending you and your family condolences.

Wandering Coyote said...

I am sorry for your loss, CC. My condolences to you and your husband.

Just Be Real said...

Dear one, I am truly sorry for your loss. Cherish those memories. ((((hugs))))

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