Memorial Day Why?...Sacrifice

***TRIGGER WARNING SHOWS LOSS AND THOSE EFFECTED DURING WAR***

This video will bring most to tears, but it really is why we have Memorial Day.  No matter your beliefs, we must never forget sacrifices men and women make.  They are real people like you or I and without them we would have to reinstate the draft. Their making the ultimate sacrifice of their life effects everyone, but especially family and friends.  The video is a true representation of why Memorial Day exists.

Memorial Day ~ Thank You For Serving!!

***TRIGGER WARNING SHOWS WAR SCENES***

This is a difficult video to watch and is dedicated to those who have lost their lives and for their families and friends losses. It is also a tribute for those who have served and who are serving despite the dangers. I thank our service men and women.

Praise You in This Storm
words by Mark Hall/music by Mark Hall and Bernie Herms

I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down
and wiped our tears away,
stepped in and saved the day.
But once again, I say amen
and it's still raining
as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain,
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away.

Chorus:
And I'll praise you in this storm
and I will lift my hands
for You are who You are
no matter where I am
and every tear I've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on
if I can't find You
and as the thunder rolls
I barely hear You whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise
the God who gives and takes away

Chorus

I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth
I lift my eyes onto the hills
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth

Chorus

A Salute

This weekend, I salute those who have made the ultimate sacrifice of service! Thank you!

White and Nerdy

Time for a little levity...Imagine!!

Borderline Personality Disorder Stigma...Why?

In the past, I have written about the stigma of borderline personality disorder and some of the reason for it. However, Brain Blogger: Topics from multidimensional biopsychosocial perspectives, has one of the best articles, Psychiatry Discriminates Against People with Borderline Personality Disorder, that I have read and I want to share it with you.  I will later follow up with posts on abandonment, self-image and the brain. 

The stigma regarding Borderline Personality Disorder is probably the highest out of all mental illnesses combined.  While in college and in my career, my colleagues and I have often groaned when I find out one of my clients are diagnosed as such.  When I was diagnosed with it, I was quite scared because of the stigma which is clearly explained in Brain Blogger: Topics from multidimensional biopsychosocial perspectives.  As explained in the article, many professionals will not treat those individuals with borderline personality disorder.

However, I believe that there is hope.  For me, I have learned to manage my symptoms and understand them.  But, it has taken a very long-time and psychiatric hospitalizations and medication.  I continue to improve. My therapist is very committed to my becoming healthy and treats me as a person first and explains what behavior, thinking and emotions are common in people with borderline personality disorder.  I takes a huge commitment one the patient and professionals regarding borderline personality disorder.

Brain Blogger: Topics from multidimensional biopsychosocial perspectives, is a fantastic site and one that I follow one a consistent basis.  It addresses professional issues and psychological issues from many disciples in a way the someone not in the mental health permission can understand. Okay, I'll stop rambling and let you read the article. With permission the following is an article reprinted for this post:

Psychiatry Discriminates Against People with Borderline Personality Disorder
By Elise Stobbe

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is characterized by a pattern of unstable relationships, a self-image that is always changing, and poor impulse control. The person suffering from BPD fears abandonment and will go to any lengths to prevent this, including threats of suicide. Self-harm is a characteristic.

There may be no other psychiatric diagnosis more laden with stereotypes and stigma than Borderline Personality Disorder. People who live with this label — the majority being female — often have problems accessing good mental health services. (1) Unlike the stigmatization that society puts on mental illness, the stigma associated with BPD often comes from mental health professionals and their patronizing attitudes.

Many psychiatrists will not treat BPD patients, or they may limit the number of BPD patients in their practice or drop them as ”treatment resistant.” Often attempts to treat borderlines fail, and some professionals blame the patient for not responding to treatment. (2) It is often undiagnosed, misdiagnosed, or treated inappropriately. According to Dr. Joel Dvoskin, former Commissioner of the New York State Office Of Mental Health,

“Why would psychiatry and psychology turn so viciously against people they call mentally disordered? Apparently the greatest sin a client can commit is poor response to treatment. What is apparently so wrong about these unfortunate souls is that they have yet to demonstrate the ability to get better in response to our treatment. Thus, they don’t make us feel very good. With a few notable exceptions, we have simply given up on helping people who desperately need us to do a better job of helping them.” (3)

Many mental health professionals discriminate against BPD patients because of what their co-workers have said about them. They watch other professional people “rolling their eyes” when someone mentions BPD. This is just evidence showing others that “everyone knows that people with BPD are horrible people and hard to manage”. (4)

Clients who come to services with a diagnosis of BPD “may already be disliked before they have even been seen. Clients in treatment are often embroiled in clinician attitudes which are derogatory or denying the legitimacy of their right to access resources. Studies have demonstrated clinicians having less empathy for people meeting diagnostic criteria for borderline personality disorder than other diagnostic groups and making more belittling comments.” (5)

Support services for consumers and families are woefully inadequate. The public is generally unaware of the disorder due to the lack of educational materials available from various mental health organizations. No celebrity has yet come forward to put a face on BPD, probably because BPD is the most stigmatized of all mental illnesses today. (6)

Recent research studies have demonstrated the effectiveness of individual cognitive behavioral therapy along with group psychoeducation and skills training that teach emotional regulation skills, distress tolerance, improved interpersonal relationship behaviors and awareness (mindfulness). This, combined with careful medication management, may allow the patient to achieve significant progress. (7)

Effective treatment can reduce symptoms and improve quality of life. There is also considerable short-term fluctuation in symptoms and distress, and the long-term outcome for many patients is often better than originally thought, even without treatment. (8) A fairly new psychosocial treatment termed dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) which was developed specifically to treat BPD is available. But without willing professionals, people with BPD are denied the help they need.

References


(1) Nehls, N. Issues Mental Health Nursing. “Border Personality Disorder: Gender Types, Stigma and Limited System of Care“. Abstract. Entrez PubMed.

(2) Bogod, Elizabeth. Mental Health Matters. “Borderline Personality Disorder Label Creates Stigma“.


(3) CAMI Journal on BPD, Vol 8 cited by TARA Association, “Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder“.


(4) Fleener, Patty, M.S.W. BPD Today. “Stigma and Borderline Personality Disorder“. (2002).


(5) Krawitz, Roy and Watson, Christine. Mental Health Commission Occasional Publications: No. 2. “Borderline Personality Disorder: Pathways to Effective Service Delivery and Clinical Treatment Options.” (October, 1999).


(6) Porr, Valerie. TARA Association. How Advocacy is Bringing Borderline Personality Disorder Into the Light“. (Nov. 2001).


(7) TARA Association, “Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder“.


(8) Livesley, W. John, M.D. The Canadian Journal of Psychiatry. Editorial: “Progress in the Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder“. (July 2005).

So what is your experience with being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or what have you known about the stigma surrounding this disorder?

Don't forget to check out Brain Blogger: Topics from multidimensional biopsychosocial perspectives.  You will be glad that you did. Follow it for a while to see the vast number of posts including funny research.  Thank you for Brain Blogger for giving me permission to post their article.

Look Out!! Here Come The...!!!

In all of us, there is something that most people try to hide, but everyone has it... an inner geek and/or nerd.  Luckily, May 25th is Nerd/Geek Pride Day!!!

The following is from Wikipedia:

Apparently, it originated in Spain. You go Spanish nerds. In addition, it falls on

the anniversary of the original Star Wars film.

In 2008, Geek Pride Day came to America and in 2009, Canada. So let's rock our

nerdiness. Let's get a large number of people to party it up with us.

Look at your geek responsibilities, people. This is going to be awesome.

A manifesto was created to celebrate the first Geek Pride Day which included the following list of basic rights and responsibilities of geeks.

Rights:

The right to be even geekier.

The right to not leave your house.

The right to not have a significant other and to be a virgin.

The right to not like football or any other sport.

The right to associate with other nerds.

The right to have few friends (or none at all).

The right to have all the geeky friends that you want.

The right to not be "in-style."

The right to be overweight and have poor eyesight.

The right to show off your geekiness.

The right to take over the world.

Responsibilities:

Be a geek, no matter what.

Try to be nerdier than anyone else.

If there is a discussion about something geeky, you must give your opinion.

Save any and all geeky things you have.

Do everything you can to show off your geeky stuff as though it were a "museum of geekiness."

Don't be a generalized geek. You must specialize in something.

Attend every nerdy movie on opening night and buy every geeky book before anyone else.

Wait in line on every opening night. If you can go in costume or at least with a related T-shirt, all the better.

Don't waste your time on anything not related to geekdom.

Befriend any person or persons bearing any physical similarities to comic book or sci-fi figures.

Try to take over the world!

Engineers are often portrayed as nerds or geeks especially with the computer and electronic age...who do you think invented your iPod? I tell my husband who is an engineer that "engineers make the world go 'round."  I'm going to embrace my geek today.  However, I would have to say that my mother's husband is a certifiable nerd.  He wears a pocket protecter and bring physics books on vacation for pleasure reading. Hmmm...but, I bring academic psychology books....it is all inside of us to some degree. 

I wondered what is the difference between Geeks and Nerds...the Internet had some interesting ideas:

So ow it is time for you to take a couple of quizzes to find out your geekiness and nerdiness. (For people who know me, honestly I didn't cheat!!)

You Are 24% Nerdy

You're a little nerdy, but no one would ever call you a nerd. You sometimes get into nerdy things, but only after they've become a part of mainstream culture.

How Nerdy Are You?

Blogthings: If Quizzes Are Outlawed, Only Outlaws Will Take Quizzes

You Are an Academic Geek

Academic Geekiness: High Music Geekiness: Low SciFi Geekiness: Low Fashion Geekiness: None Gamer Geekiness: None Geekiness in Love: None Internet Geekiness: None Movie Geekiness: None Nerdy Geekiness: None

How Geeky Are You?

The First Rule of Blogthings Is: You Don't Talk About Blogthings

So what do you think? How did you score? Are you a geek or a nerd...Shhh, we won't tell anyone.

Bad Weekend

Bad Day by ClinicallyClueless on Polyvore.com

"Who Am I" ~ Casting Crowns ~ Worship in Song